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Losing a pet to old age, illness or injury is never easy, even when the pet is "put to sleep" as gently as possible. As if the loss itself isn't enough, many pet owners also deal with guilt in one form or another. This can really hinder the healing process.

In the forum post below, a viewer is suffering from a tragic loss and dealing with a huge amount of guilt. Viewers in the forum and in the "comments" area of this page have offered many comforting insights and suggestions for dealing with pet loss, grief and guilt. Please feel free to post your comments on this page or in the forum thread.

From the VetMed Forum:
JCD1 asks: "Yesterday, I was taking our 2 young Chihuahuas for a walk in my electric scooter, as I am handicapped due to a degenerative muscle disease. The youngest dog, Mason, had just turned 1 year old on September 9th. Both dogs were running and playing and chasing each other as they always would do. Mason ran right under the front wheel of my scooter, and I was unable to stop and ran over him, killing him instantly. I have never experienced this much pain and guilt over our other animal losses. I can't stop thinking about Mason, how I was responsible for his death, and the pain I created for my wife and I. I would be most grateful for any advice that can help me through this very difficult time."

Comments

September 19, 2007 at 1:16 pm
(1) Nora says:

Hi, first let me tell you how sorry I am for your loss. I, too, just lost my dog 2 days ago. Just like your situation, it was a horrible accident. She got out, and was hit by a car on the freeway and died instantly. I blame myself and my boyfriend, but am slowly learning that that is not a healthy nor productive way to handle your loss and grief. Please check out the pet loss support page here, and read the part about conquering grief, particularly the part about redemption and forgiveness. It has helped me the past couple of days, and I hope it helps you and your wife. Again, please accept my sympathies for your loss. I know exactly how you feel. http://vetmedicine.about.com/gi/dynamic/offsite.htm?zi=1/XJ/Ya&sdn=vetmedicine&cdn=homegarden&tm=48&f=20&su=p284.8.150.ip_&tt=14&bt=1&bts=1&zu=http://www.pet-loss.net/

September 19, 2007 at 1:24 pm
(2) Nora says:

Please accept the loss of your beloved Mason. I,too, just lost my dog two days ago as a result of a horrible accident. She got out, and was hit instantly on the freeway. I blame myself and my boyfriend for her death, but I am slowly learning that this is not the way to handle a pet’s death, and certainly not healthy or productive for you. It was simply a horrible accident, just like in my case. Please red “Breaking the Power of Guilt” by Moira Anderson Allen. She spells out certain helpful ways to handle our situations, particularly about redemption and forgiveness. It has helped me the past couple of days, and I hope it helps you and your wife, too. Again, my sincere sympathies.

September 20, 2007 at 1:16 pm
(3) Jo Whitley says:

I am truly sorry for the death of your pet. I’m suffering now too for euthanizing my 15.5 yrs. old dog. Her meds no longer were working for her arthritis & she was having a terrrible time getting up & down along with other health problems. I decided to end her pain & agony by “putting her to sleep.” This has been the biggest mistake I’ve ever made. I, too, am dying inside with guilt & can’t get myself back together. I’ve read “Breaking the Power of Guilt” along with other material but nothing helps. I’m a mess. If I could just turn back the clock.

September 20, 2007 at 11:18 pm
(4) shirley says:

Please accept my condolences on the loss of your pets. What you will have to accept is that both accidents are in the past. You can only go forward from here. Grieve as much as you need to. That is part of the healing process. Keep in mind that your beloved pets are being well taken care of. That is what got me thru the loss of two beloved dogs only 5 months apart, which had to be put to sleep. It was not an easy decision but both were old and in pain.You will always have a place in your heart for them and they will always be a part of you. They loved you with all they had to give and would not want you to blame yourself.

September 23, 2007 at 3:11 pm
(5) Nancy says:

First off, definitly big hugs for all of you. Accidents happen. Please dont beat yourself up, you had no way to know that was going to happen.
As for guilt about putting my pets down, I have a philosophy about putting my pets to sleep that came from a friend of mine. In 1985, my friend was diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor. Over the next year and a half I saw this vibrant, intelligent human being reduced to the intelligence of a 3 year old and in constant pain and bedridden.
She knew she wasnt ever going to get any better and one afternoon about six months before she died, she had a moment of clarity and asked her mom to leave enough pills for her to take to end her suffering. Her mom couldnt do it. She died six months later in agonzing pain.
In 2006, my 15 year old cat changed overnight. She was almost blind, she had arthritis everywhere, she stopped eating and drinking and retreated to a closet. She seemed to me to not want to live anymore. I agonized over putting her down, was it the right descision or not?
Then, I remembered my friend. That brought it all home to me. Beast was never going to get better, she was in pain, and I could end her suffering. I couldnt help my friend, but I could give peace and take the pain away for another friend.
It was a hard philosophy to come to, but I truely believe that we are the gaurdians of our pets. They give us love and compassion and when they need us to make “the call”, we are doing it for them to end their suffering.
The fact that you are guilt ridden and sad tells me that you are all compassionate/loving people. Remember that. Yor pets picked you for a reason, and you gave them a home, food, love and made the choice they couldnt make and in the end, your compassion won over the selfish desire to keep them in the world even if they were suffering. As for accidents, they happen! Just be glad and honored that you had the time you did have with them and they were happy. Big hugs to all of you.

September 24, 2007 at 10:15 am
(6) Dede says:

It’s been over a year now since I had to put my baby to sleep and I can’t let go, I still cry over him at least two to three times a week, he was born very tiny and we stayed up around the clock to make sure the other pups did not push him away and he could nurse , he was extremely small but he was a strong nurser and I though he would catch up on size , but never did the other pups got to be twice his size and played to ruff with him by the time he was 7 weeks old I had to remove him from his brothers and sister. he was in a laundy basket in my Daughters room,we feed him goats milk from a bowl because his mouth was so small and his teeth could not chew up food yet, at 8 weeks his sibling got there first shots put my vet was afaid to give him a shot because of his size, he said wait two more weeks. He told me not to get attached to him he did not think he would have a long life, I told him I was going to love him every minute god gave me with him. AND I DID!!!! When he was wormed with a safe gentle wormer ( Nemex) he had a reaction to it and his throat swelled up for two days,at 11 weeks old he did get his first shot and did fine, he was very tiny but was living a normal life, I took him everywere with me and never had him out of my sight, I put my life on hold to cater to the needs of this small dog, be brought me so much joy, he loved people and wanted to see everything, he had more personailty then most people I know , when he was 16 months old he he had a seizure that put him in the emergency hosital, they ran all kinds of test on him and sent them off they said he had a shunt in his liver and need to stay in the hospital till monday when he could have surgery, the stress was to much for him, saturday night he started to fade he was in pain and his test came back that he had a neurological disorder, his heart was faint and his breathing was shallow, he was dieing in my arms,but in pain , I let them put my baby to sleep because ther was nothing they could do for him, I lost a big piece of my heart that I can never replace,I have been breeding Pomeranians for 20 years and I have lost a lot and dogs and puppies, that part of the challenge, put I pray I never love another like him again. I’ll love you forever Tot!

September 26, 2007 at 5:22 pm
(7) debbie in sc says:

My sincerest condolences. As I read the posts above, I note that most people have sympathy; but most importantly they too want to share their own story. Although hard, it’s sort of like a therapy group to tell your story over and over again. Each time you do so it eases the pain just a little. You are honoring your pet by sharing your memory of your love for him/her. And along the way sometimes we pick up pearls of wisdom, grow and move on. I won’t lengthen this post with my own story, but I can say I cried for my own loss as I read through all of yours. The degree of pain you’re experiencing is a testimony to the amount of love you gave and received. It would be a shame for it to end here. Go on and allow yourself to love again. Yes, it will be different; but each pet teaches us something new. And as long as the love continues, so does the soul.

September 26, 2007 at 5:43 pm
(8) Verna says:

I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet little Mason. Please rest assured that you are not the only person to accidentally end the life of a beloved pet. It has happened to me and several other people I know. We are all loving and responsible pet owners who would never dream of hurting an animal! Accidents are just that…accidents. You can’t live your life on what-ifs. You do the best you can on any given day and some days just go badly. Learn what you can from this awful experience but don’t eat yourself up with guilt. Your dog would forgive you (and already has!) so take a cue from him and forgive yourself.

August 22, 2008 at 12:44 pm
(9) Georgie says:

I took my dog to work with me every day and two days ago I went to post a parcel with him and on the way I somehow dropped his lead. The plastic handle bounced as he ran spooking him even more, he was a greyhound. He was so scared. I couldn’t catch him. He was hit by a car and die. It was my fault. I miss him like mad and I just can’t forgive myself.

September 4, 2008 at 12:12 pm
(10) Brenda says:

Thank you everyone for your comments. My favorite cat was sitting on top of our open garage door when I drove out and pushed the button to close the garage. He probably got scared and instead of jumping into the garage, he rode the door down and got his head stuck. We found him hanging dead outside of the door when drove up. I am having a hard time coping with the fact that I pushed the button and hurried off instead of pausing outside the door for 30 seconds. Maybe I would have seen him and could have saved him. He truly was the best cat I have ever had (and I’ve had 3 others). However, people’s statements like “each pet teachers us something new;” “they loved you with all they had to give and would not want you to blame yourself” were really helpful to me. I also feel like pets will be in heaven and I am taking comfort in that. I believe God will want to give us gifts in heaven that will make us happy and I’m looking forward to being reunited with him. I remember from the death of past pets that it becomes easy as the years roll by to forget the neat things about them. I spent quite a bit of time writing up my memories of him and his unusual habits. I have also went through all my pictures of him and am making scrapbook pages of his pictures and these remembrances.

December 7, 2008 at 8:52 am
(11) Sarah says:

I am so sorry for your loss. Myself and My family last night lost our dog to a terrible accident. She got out the gate and because there was a storm just ran. My sister, brother and I tried to catch her but we just werent fast enough. She ran out in front of a car and was hit at a considerably high speed. She was taken to the vet with a severly broken leg and other problems and had to be put to sleep. Everyone in my family is blaming themself in one way or another and going through all the “what if’s” and I just cant see the pain getting any better. I am devestated thinkin of how scared and hurt she was and miss her like crazy. Now I have come to the point of thinkin how do I deal with this greif and help my siblings move on? They are all so sad and upset :’(

March 31, 2009 at 1:32 pm
(12) Lynette says:

I too have lost many pets over the years, but last summer we lost Lily expectedly.
We rescued her from the humane society when she was 1 1/2 years old. She was 8 when she left us. We do not know why she died, it looked like choking, but we could not feel anything in her throat. We tried to save her, but were just unable to. She slipped away right before our eyes. This was such a hard thing to deal with – to watch the life disappear from my precious baby’s eyes. I will never forget this, ever. And then, a couple weeks later, we found out that our other dog, Hunny, had cancer. She had a tumour on her foot, it was removed, she lost 2 toes. They were unable to remove all the cancer cells, so just after Christmas we noticed it growing again. The last 3 months have been heart wrenching. I have always had a hard time with the fact that we would have to put her down just because she has a bad foot. But we took her to the vet at the beginning of this month and it had spread. She is now on pain killers. I know the pills are keeping her feeling fit and energetic, but she has days where we can see in her eyes that she just doesn’t feel good. I know in my head and my heart that it is time to let her go, but just cannot bring myself to put her down. I am hoping that she passes in her sleep, as cruel as that sounds, but I really don’t know if I will be able to “kill” her. I have cried a lot of tears for her since last summer, and I know when she finally goes that I will again, but I also think that this will bring some relief, an ending to a very hard and painful year. I will miss her with all of my heart and soul and my only solace right now is that she will be with her sister again. I know I have a very heart breaking decision to deal with, probably this weekend, but I would never trade any of my time that I have had with Lily or Hunny for anything in the world. They were my world and I feel so blessed to have had them in my life. Yes, they had to /have to leave too young, but I will cherish every second. And I will grieve, but I know that time will slowly heal the pain. Although with Lily, it is taking a very long time, because I feel like I let her down that day. She was supposed to stay with us till she grew old. At least with Hunny we will get to say goodbye. And I have no regrets this time. We’ve had 9 months to really show her how much we love her. I just hope that she joins Lily at the Rainbow Bridge and that someday I will be reunited with all of my beloved pets. I know that guilt is just a natural part of dying, but I choose to believe that there is something after this life, I am not religious, but the thought that my babies are together again brings me some peace. And they say animals live in the moment and that they don’t hold grudges. So I think we all need to forgive ourselves and as hard as it is, life does go on. I have found getting another pet helps. Lily and Hunny will never be replaced and I don’t want to replace them, but I have so much room in my heart to love again and I am – we have adopted three more babies since Lily left. I know Lily would have loved every one of them. Hunny does, I think though that maybe this is what she is holding for – cos she doesn’t want to leave them. Lily you were such a precious angel and I miss you everyday and I know you’re watching over Hunny till she joins you. I know you’re up there somewhere having fun, and that you’re fit and healthy. Hunny will be fit and healthy again soon. Love you both with all of my heart and soul.

Sorry for being so long winded, but as someone said talking about it does help even just a little. So, talk about it. There is no shame in what you’re feeling. As for people who have never loved a dog or a cat, or any other animal – I feel sorry for them. They are truly missing out on something so wonderful.

October 17, 2009 at 2:28 pm
(13) Susan Em says:

I had my sixteen year old dog euthanized just a few days ago and have cried, sobbed and feel so guilty for doing so. He was blind due to cateracts, deaf and suffered from congestive heart disease. I kept him in diapers because of the Lasix he was on, but recently he began pooping in the house. He really had no quality of life. I had to carry him upstairs to bed at night, carry him outside to a shady spot to potty……it has been tough. The heart disease caused him to cough….mostly at night which kept us up. My vet was of no help…I asked many times about the right time to say good bye,but she/he would only smile…. finally after one night and morning of constant coughing I called the vet and had him killed that afternoon. Forget the could of, should of, maybe if I……all of that is too late. I feel guilty because I should have tried a higher dose of Lasix and a diet especially made for the heart. I’m so sorry I didn’t try another method.

November 22, 2009 at 8:12 pm
(14) Ike says:

Very sorry to hear of Mason. I hope time had healed the tear.

Here’s my recent dog accident story: My 18yr 7mth Shih-Tzu fell off a 3′ ledge, to ceramic tile, landing on his shoulder and back—-rendering him unable to walk. I knew it was coming, but not like this. It happened so fast. I had little doubt about making the needle apt was the right action. I had full body x-rays taken on his final day, and the vet said he looked fine. Nothing broken, but had nerve, legiment damage, which kept him on his side. When it happened, I got the lump in the throat, eyes watering, guilt of ‘what if’. Boy was I pissed and shocked to see my dog crippled and not much of a dog anymore. But he still had the fight in him, and actually stood up on all 4′s enough to make me jump for joy. We had 5 days together, and that was it.

Yes he was old, his back legs were weak, was deaf, and blind, but nothing internally was wrong w/ him. He was amazing; seeing his breed lives avg 14yrs. He hadn’t had a vet bill in 4 yrs, he looked great too. Prior to the fall, he began to bark allot; signaling he was frustranted about losing his senses/degeneration. Not sure though? This continued after the fall. I do think about his presumptious natural exit, of which I was prepared for. The odd thing is as much as I miss him, that can’t compare to my error that hastened the needle. I’m learning to accept it, and pull memories from his charmed life.

Some advise: While sorting this out, do not discuss your trauma with non-Animal loving people You might see how insensitive they really are, and leave them behind too.

March 25, 2010 at 2:57 pm
(15) Rhonda says:

My condolences to whomever has lost a beloved pet. We had to put our boxer (Cupcake) down Monday, and I cannot get myself together. She went and did everything with me and my family. She slept with us, she rode with us, she followed me everywhere I went in the house and outside. I am not sure how to live life without her. I did not realize how close I was to her, almost like losing a child. She was a wonderful dog that we had adopted when she was 7 years old, she was 15 when we had to make a decision and I am still questioning myself on putting her down, but I guess that is normal. She had been sick for a while and we had spent a many of day at the vets office, it finally just took a toll on her and we decided no more and the vet thought it was time too, but now that it is all over I wish I had her back and just can’t stand the thought of never hugging, kissing, playing, and loving her anymore. I am having a hard time going to bed at night because she slept with us, nothing seems normal anymore. I never thought I could feel this much pain!! I sure wish I knew how to get thru this myself.

April 18, 2010 at 4:59 pm
(16) Lori says:

So many heartbreaking stories about all of the pets that we’ve all loved. We had our 16-year-old dog, Tater, put to sleep six months ago because he too was suffering with poor quality of life. It was the hardest decision in my life and I still wonder if made the right decision. I especially miss him because he was my best friend and we were rarely apart. In the meanwhile, I rescued a 2-year-old dog almost a year ago that was abandoned on our country road and named her Sophie. She was best of friends with Tater until his death. What a free spirit she was, always running and running. However, part of her run included chasing cars. We’re still feeling so guilty because of our negligence knowing that her rope wasn’t secure, as she had broken away from many times in the past. Two days ago, she ran up to our busy country road to chase a car and was hit and killed, left in the ditch. I’m upset that whoever killed her didn’t bother to stop or to contact us. She had i.d. on her collar. I’m still in grief over missing Tater and now with Sophie gone, I am beside myself. I know that it’ll take time and with a supportive animal-loving family, I’m grateful that they’re willing to listen to me talk about Sophie and to cry openly. My thoughts are with every one of you.

April 28, 2010 at 11:03 am
(17) Deb says:

I’m sorry for anyone who has lost a pet. My 15-1/2-year-old Jack Russell Terrier just recently died of what was believed to be congestive heart failure. We had noticed rapid chest respirations for almost a week. On the day she died, she was sleeping a lot but still active and eating. When she got up mid-day, she was having trouble breathing. We took her to the vet and the vet stated that she had a severe heart murmur and some pain in her stomach area but she rallied while there. The vet suggested we take her home, make her comfortable and told us what to watch for with congestive heart failure. Her gums would turn a gray color, she would have stomach distention, etc. We brought her home. She ate, drank, went out for a bit and then fell asleep. Again, upon waking, she had trouble breathing out her nose and was staggering while trying to walk. It was apparent she was in trouble. It was 11:00 in the evening and there were no vets open and no animal hospitals in the immediate area. The breathing problem lasted a couple of hours. We held her and comforted her and she eventually let out a couple of loud cries, followed by deep mouth breaths every few minutes until she finally passed. Three hours seemed like an eternity to me and now I am struggling with the fact that she seemed to have suffered at the end. It felt like she was drowning in her own fluid. I guess I would like to be assured by someone that she was out of it and not suffering as much as it appeared and that we made the right decision by not driving her in the car for over an hour to an animal university and allowing her to die peacefully at home.

April 30, 2010 at 8:48 pm
(18) Mary says:

Hello, and my heart is with all of you. I lost my Buddy (Basset) 5 years old. He was hit by a car. 1 month ago. I never lost a pet this way. All my pets since childhood lived long lives and I’ve had to put two down due to old age and poor health, how agonizing, and to lose a dog to something tragic that cut his life short, there are no words to describe my deep grief and guilt of letting my pal down and not keeping him secure and safe.

I hope that all of us pet owners are reunited in heaven with our precious pets, canine or feline, they are beyond companion/friend/ family, they are little angels that tought us what love and companionship are all about.

Take care, all who post on this website, my tears are shed with all of you. -mv-

September 16, 2010 at 7:19 pm
(19) Michelle says:

I’m sorry for all of your losses. I too recently lost my dog on Sunday. It was ultimately my fault. I was rock climbing with my boyfriend and some friends of ours. My boyfriend was on the wall, while i was on the ground belaying the other end of the rope. Somehow, i dropped my boyfriend 35 feet. I’ve never once done this and i still have no idea how it happened. We are both very experienced climbers. But it gets worse. We brought my dog, Pepper, to the spot only because we were leaving straight from there to go 2.5 hours home. It was my week to take care of her and i was looking really forward to it. I never ever brought her to the climbing spots before but because we were taking her straight home my boyfriend said we should just take her. I agreed because it would save us like 40 minutes to go back and get her. Anyway, when i dropped him, he landed right on topp of my 8 lb baby and crushed her. I still haven’t totally forgiven myself for dropping my boyfriend and for Peppers death.

October 29, 2010 at 3:05 pm
(20) Sarah says:

We just lost our boy dog this past Sunday. We thought he was in the house with our newest puppy whom we’ve had for about a month. They were inseperable and I knew she was sleeping in the my office. But come to find out, our boy dog was laying under our trailer which he did on occasion because he liked the shade. But whenever our truck started, he would always move. Well this time and we have no clue why, he didn’t move and the most horrible thing happened. We ran over and killed our own baby. I had to watch him die right in front of me and there was nothing we could do. It was the worst nightmare I’ve ever experienced. My heart is broke, my baby boy is gone and I have so much guilt. I had to have my 15 year old put to sleep this past May because she had cancer and this to happen so soon after. I just can’t get beyond the guilt.

November 4, 2010 at 11:14 pm
(21) dede says:

I am sorry for all of your losses. I just lost my cat last night. I was coming home from work and pulled in to the drive way as always and I never even saw her, it just sounded like i ran over a box or something so i stopped the car and opened my door to find it was my cat that i had ran over. It’s like losing a family member and I can’t get it out of my head that she is probably wondering why did mom just run over me.

December 4, 2010 at 4:21 pm
(22) Teresa says:

My heart goes out to all of you, as I just had to have my baby (kitty of 16 years) put to sleep this past week. We had been through a lot together, and I miss her terribly.

I have been dealing with terrible night terrors where I would be half asleep and half awake, and I would see images or people coming at me. I would often strike out at these images. Well, this past week, my little girl must have been walking up to love on me on the side of the bed, but I was hallucinating again, and saw the figure of a man coming at me, so I kicked very hard at it. I then heard these terrible cries, which I will never forget, never. I awoke to find my favorite kitty crying terribly and falling down on her side. She already had horrible arthritis, so I was giving her buprenorphine injections twice daily. Her bones were already extremely weak and frail. I rushed her to the emergency vet clinic, and they said her back leg was broken.

I died inside and just cried uncontrollably, because I knew that I could not put her through any more pain, as her arthritis left her almost crippled. No, I refused to put her through surgery and decided right then to have her put to sleep.

I am dealing with HORRIBLE guilt. I loved my little girl more than anything, and how in the world could I hurt my baby who I tried to protect from pain her entire life. Oh, how it hurts.

I know it was her time to go, as she seemed to always be in pain from her arthritis, but I hate that I had to put her through even more pain at the very end.

Oh, how I loved her.

December 30, 2010 at 4:44 pm
(23) Frank says:

My condolences to all
We just lost our beloved Pedro on the 24th of this year. Although he had a few issues for seveeral years
we were able to keep things under control with medications. He was a happy, intellegent little Chihuahua with attitude to spare. I am also wracked with guilt about having to put him down after a sudden change in his health. I am grateful for the extra time I had with him after I knew it was the end.
We sat in the car for about a hour and I talked to him and stroked his back all the while explaining to him why he wasn’t going home this time. I think he might have understood what I was trying to say because
he finally settled into my lap and became very calm.
We were with him till the very end as heartbreaking as it was and I miss him more than anything in the world right now. I hope and pray I made the right decision.

January 1, 2011 at 11:52 pm
(24) jean says:

im very sorry for all your losses. i lost my dog jasper he was 19 yrs old and he was a minature poodle best dog i ever had we adopted him through a shelter when we got him he was abused but we turned his life around he was so spoliled when we got a hold of him i took him to get a haircut every 2 or 3 times a year and they would do his nails and he lokked like a proffesional poodle he loved it we would take him bye byes all the time he loved getting a bath and he just started to get hard for him to walk and he had catacracts in both eyes he coulndt hold his bladder any more so me and my family was going to put him to sleep because he was in pain he was crying so we went to take him to the vet my daughter put him in my arms i kissed him on the head and i told him that i loved him and he took his last breath when i did that and passed away in my arms. my daughter went to come back from signing him in and we brlike down and cried that was very hard for me to do .then we went to go in the room and the lihts flickered on and off it was weird the other lights satyed on in the building except for the room we were in to me i thonk it was a sign he was ok i cant except it i keep seeing that vision in my head over and over again its very hard to except it

March 7, 2011 at 10:43 pm
(25) Mario says:

My name is Mario and I just killed my dog. First of all, accept my apologies for my writing skills. I am from Ecuador and English is obviously not my first language. Please accept my condolensces for your loss. Today I experienced one of the most tragic moments in my life, only surpassed by my father’s death. We arrived at a friend’s house at the beach; and as always I brought my dog Janis, a Boston Terrier three years old. My wife and I were so worried about my two years old daughte that we totally forgot about Janis. After five hours, she died by asphixia. When I noticed it, I drove to the nearest vet clinic and they confirmed that she died. My wife and I are a mess. We got Janis soon after we got married and she become like a first step for our parenthood experience. My guilt feelings are killing. How bad parent can I be to forget about my precious Janis? I can’t cope with this situation. She was my first dog ever and she was so lovely with us, with my daughter and specially with me. t

April 2, 2011 at 9:04 pm
(26) elaine says:

3 days ago i had to put my little man pipin down, he was a 8 year old lowchen, and much more than a pet, he was my best mate, we have been through a lot together, it was like we could look into each others eyes and know exactly what each one was thinking.
Just over a week ago he was getting very lathargic, which was defineley not like him, he normally is a ball of energy.
my husband and myself watched him deteriorate over a 3 day period, we took him into the vet only to be told he had pancreitous, they put him on a drip and we thought he was getting better , but sadly he took a turn for the worst, the last time i saw him he was lying there and looking at me with terribly sad eyes, i then had to make the decision no one wants to make, he died in my arms.
But i have taken 2 days of work now and still cant stop crying, i have lost a big part of my heart and the pain in horrible, the guilt is there as i now know the desease is due to diet, friends tell me not to blame myself but it is so hard, hopefully time will heal.

April 16, 2011 at 9:27 pm
(27) Karen says:

I just had my cocker spaniel, Lucky, put down this morning. I’m suffering massiave guilt and don’t know if I did the right thing. He was suffering from congestive heart failure and liver cancer. He had stopped eating and drinking and started to have seizures. He was fighting to breath and the vet said it was time. I just can’t help but wonder if I had tried more would he have made it through this. The vet said he wouldn’t have but I still wonder. I understand your pain at losing your dog.

May 11, 2011 at 3:01 am
(28) craig says:

Its funny how most of us feel guilt at the death of a pet, well more often than if it was a person.
My cat of ten years and many troubble free moves (bles his lil sox), had an eye pack up. The vet was unable to diagnose it without expensive tests- so I made the call and opted to get it removed rather than have him put down. the timing was pretty bad, as I was going thru the toughest part of my life so far -hopefully for good :) , and wanted him to be with me. It was hard to get the cash, but the vet said cats cope fine with one eye…so… silly thing was, after he got back, he hid under the house most of the time. It would take alot of coaxing to get him to come out and have pats for a bit. I got a lil peeved off, and stoped making the extra effort to spend time with him. after a while I saw his other eye looking bad, and aftr a couple of days it was worse…I felt like putting off taking him in, knowing that it was prob curtains for him- but I thought there may be hope.
Unfortunatly there wasnt, and after he was put down, his autopsy showd he had a massive brain tumor. Even tho I know I had no way of knowing, I still feel guilty that I didnt spend as much time with him in his last few weeks than I feel I should have.
Its funny how the guilt remains even when we know the situation. he had a wonderful life- and we had an incredible bond. It just sux how there has to b tears when we want to remember, but like they say theres got to be the ying to the yang. Arohanui ngeru.

August 20, 2011 at 4:12 pm
(29) Gary says:

I had to put my 14 year old Border Collie down last night. He was crippled from arthritis and could no longer get up. He stopped eating and was going down hill fast. This has been one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. I don’t know how to deal with the grief of losing my best friend. I had the vet come to my home to do it. It was fast, immediate and painless as far as I could tell. Though I know it was necessary I don’t know how to deal with the pain and ache I have in my heart. I will miss immensely.

September 3, 2011 at 11:31 pm
(30) jane pike says:

I ran over my dog on Wed. and can’t get over it. She was the most loving dog. Even people who didn’t like dogs, loved her. Was over tired and was not careful. I thought she was in the garage. She was behind the wheel. I backed up over her. I saw her convulsing, and she died. She was my best friend. She probably thought, why did my mom run me over. I can’t stand that it was me who killed her.

September 13, 2011 at 4:48 am
(31) Angela says:

We all loved our pets, despite the outcome,
and our pets knew we loved them.

I had to put my best friend down on Saturday. Scruffy was
my faithful partner for 8 years through thick and thin and never left my side. I save her twice before, when another dog ripped her throat open, and serveral years later she has to have a lump taken out of her leg. This all gave her more precious time with me.
The recently Two vets told me it was time, as she had a tumour in her leg that became infected and was spreading. Just lifting her up caused her pain, and she just lay on her pillow day in day out. I do not know how I managed to get to the vet to have her put down. Maybe it was my best friend who said, if you love her, then let her go.
My son said she was in great pain and might have managed to live another week or two. By then she would have gone downhill further and have been so weak.
I have a heavy heart just like you all do, and wonder about the what ifs. Hopefully I kept her from more suffering even if I shortened her life by a few weeks. I miss you Scruffy so much ……

October 13, 2011 at 8:55 pm
(32) lynda says:

i rescued a westie male dog 5 years ago and had to have him put down yesterday over that time he had bitten nme badly but always put it down to him being mistreated as a young dog he was also very loving towards me and and always new when i was approaching home he would just stop walking in the direction with my husband and run back to our home we cant come to terms why he did this and it has been the hardest thing i have ever had to do cant stop crying and feel a crushing feeling in my heart but our vet said the situation waS critical how do you cope

November 1, 2011 at 4:23 pm
(33) gina says:

I just had to put my dog down 3 days ago, his name is Bud 15yrs old….lived a great life never been sick then March of this year he got diabetes, so had to put him on insulin, he lost a lot of weight…then last month he had 2 seizures from low blood sugar, I wasnt aware in adjusting his insulin cause of his weight loss….then he came around after being in the hospital for a couple days, he came home, took him about 2 weeks to be himself again….started to eat and be Bud again…then this past month he just lost so much muscle in his back legs, the legs gave out, he couldnt walk…I carried him to eat and go potty, when he didnt have an accident. The neurologist thinks he has a lesion on his spine and brain…..just by doing an exam on him, last month. His back legs would just drag, he couldnt hold himself up, so I was more than happy to carry him…along with the millions of kisses I have given him everyday. My boyfriend has had Bud since he was a puppy @ 6 weeks….so I have been the mommie for 8 years now….me and Bud spend every second of every day together….and I look around my house now for him and can still smell him, and we have a candle lit. I feel extremely guilty for doing that to him on sat…..wasnt sure if I made the right decision with my boyfriend….but he didnt want to see him like that….(he was also blind) but I spoon fed him everyday….which I didnt mind. I would give my life for that dog. I am missing him so much right now, I find myself crying every 5 minutes, missing him so much. I feel my heart is empty, and feel someone ripped out my heart. My child he was like…..me and Bud had a special bond…..I love my baby more than words can ever say….and I really dont know how I am going to go on without him.

November 21, 2011 at 9:46 am
(34) klarissa says:

Two days ago I had to put my sweet baby to sleep. His name was beast he just turned 12wks old. He was going in for his shots when a few nights before I noticed his weight loss his non appetite or wanting water. When I took him to the vet they said he had parvo I feel horrible and so responsible for his life being put down. I tried to be so careful since parvo shots are not supposed to be given til 12 weeks I didn’t let him out so I must have carried it in. He was my baby he followed me everywhere slept by me any place I was sittiting,standing, sleeping. He was so active n playful. I miss him so much I can’t stop crying I wish I could have afforded treatment i just couldn’t and I know his life was worth so much more to me. I feel so bad I didn’t want him to suffer at all but I can’t let go how I had to hand him over to the lady to take him I love him so much and I just dont know how to stop crying. I feel like one of my children was ripped from me. He didn’t deserve any of it he was the perfect pup.

November 21, 2011 at 9:54 am
(35) klarissa says:

I dont know how to handle this I’ve never been through this before. I can hear his little whimper I see his hair on my couch his toys n bed I put away but I miss seeing his things around. I miss him laying by my legs or by my head. He would wait for me while I was in the shower I just feel lost n incomplete. He was a part of me and even though I only had him a few months it hurts so much. He didn’t get a full life its not fair. I want to wake up from this horrible dream. My house seems colder and empty…its all my fault I paid to end his life I wish I never had to make that decision I feel so guilty I just didn’t want him to go through any more pain he was throwing up and I just felt the pain in his heaving. My poor baby I love you I will never forget you beast. I hate this! I feel so angry. Im sorry to those who are reading I must seem like a child but I can’t help any of this I need to vent I need some comfort I have never had to go through this

November 29, 2011 at 11:37 pm
(36) Sasha says:

I have never in my life commented on a blog article or anything before,&right now I feel so sad&alone & just terrible I need to let it out.My boyfriend&I were going out 6 months when we got my pomeranian Sasha.She was SO BAD!But we loved her SO MUCH.She was my baby.Now I am pregnant&engaged&we bought a house after living in an apartment&my #1 reason for wanting the house was so Sasha could have a yard. 2 days ago i let her out &when I called her in she never came.I ran down the street&saw Sasha dead in the middle of the road.I screamed & screamed&cried in my street at 11 pm.I couldn’t stop.Im 7 months pregnant.We buried Sasha yesterday,&I have never been more sad in my whole life,even when a person has died,which I know sounds horrible but its just the truth.I can’t sleep&I can’t stop thinking about her&I can’t stop crying bc I failed her.I was supposed to keep her safe &she got out from a hole in my fence-so preventable it makes me feel so sick.My fiance was crying for these past 2 days its the first I ever saw him cry.Sasha symbolized our entire relationship&we were so looking forward to the years to come with our new house& baby&we are still so shocked&in disbelief that it happened.it feels like no one truly understands&it makes it so hard.I finally stopped crying for a few hrs tonight I looked around it was so quiet I just burst out in tears.I’m alone bc my fiance is at work overnight&I feel as though I just can’t handle this. I just dont know how Im going to make it OK thru the next months I feel so hopeless&desperate& empty&regretful&can’t stop thinking how unfair it was to her she was only going to be 2 in January.I look out into the yard hoping to see her running&I promise God that if he brings her back to me or rewinds time Ill ask no questions& tell no one &I just keep thinking crazy things like that.I know this too shall pass& time really does heal all wounds but right now that seems so far away I just feel so overwhelmed&this is too much to handle.

December 5, 2011 at 12:02 pm
(37) Donna says:

I am so sorry for all your lost loved little babies it breaks my heart and I have cried through reading every one of your stories of your beloved little ones.

I hope you dont mind but I have to cut my story in 2 halves to fit it on this blog but I really needed to tell you my story.
Part 1.

I lost my sweet little baby girl Pepsi 8 1/2-years-old Dachshund cross Jack Russell.
I rescued her from a pet shop she was so thin small and frail my mom diffident even think she would see her first birthday but I just loved her I took her to work with me every day for the first 3 months and she pulled through.

She had such a kind heart and she was so clever she knew so much its like she was a human, we spent every possible moment together I shared every meal with her she slept on our bed we walked every day, I loved bathing and brushing her, she was always so happy she wagged her tail all the time its like she was so grateful for life she was my little shadow the best friend I’ve ever had my baby I miss her so much its unbearable.

December 5, 2011 at 12:04 pm
(38) Donna says:

Part 2 Pepsi 8 1/2-years-old Dachshund cross Jack Russell

The worst part is I watched her die as my husband and I where going to take her for a walk she ran out the garage it happened right out side my own house she ran off to smell a bush I saw the car coming and called to her to come it was not even going fast she was such an obedient dog she just hesitated for a second but the timing was so bad, she stepped right in-front of the Large vehicle I could not believe my eyes as to what was happening one second my sweet baby was coming to me with the sweetest look on her face as she loved her walkies. and the next second the car wheels went over her she was crushed her head was crushed and there where pools of blood my husband knew she was gone but you know you believe against all odds its cant be true and it will be ok, we rushed her to the vet but she had already she passed away it was so sudden my heart felt like it had been ripped and crushed in to a million pieces like life no longer had meaning, she only had half her life and I was to blame for it ending I was supposed to protect her.
Its so empty and lonely without her and sometimes I think I hear her its so heartbreaking I cry all the time, I Loved her with all I had to Love.

What I can advise if you have the money is to see a psychologist as I am doing so the trauma for me is just too much for me to bear, they can really help you see things in a more positive light even when it seems like there is only blackness and emptiness.

Something the psychologist said to me has helped me cope a little, she said it is better to have true moments of Joy and happiness with something you really Love even if its not as long as you had hoped or it turned out so tragically.
than to never have Loved so deeply or felt such happiness and Joy at all.
They are a gift sent to us to let us know how much we truly are able to Love.
D.

December 18, 2011 at 12:19 pm
(39) Donna says:

I am sitting here in tears as I write this.I put my boston terrier of 14 years down last Monday. She had starting having seizures last August and had lost alot of her metal capabilities and did not seem to be enjoying life anymore. She would whine, bark excessively and pace around the house. She did not seem happy inside the house or outside. I know in my heart she had a very good life going to the beach, taking boat rides and many long car rides, but there is still this feeling that I might have done it too soon. This is the first time I have ever experienced this but I feel there is a giant hole in my heart. I would appreciate any one advice on how to deal with my grieve.

December 29, 2011 at 5:20 pm
(40) IndioGirl says:

I am so very sorry for the lose of your babies !!! I too am sitting here crying..

I lost my Angel 8/1/11 – I came home from gym pulling into garage saw her on the side of the car – next thing I felt was a bump – I knew that I had ran her over – I guess she ran under the wheel as I was pulling in – OMG I SCREAMED AND CRIED FOR HOURS – TO THIS VERY DAY I FEEL SO BAD FOR KILLING MY DOG – she was my baby.. I don’t know if this guilt will ever go away… I miss her so much – and I just feel so bad – she trusted me to take care of her and I killed her -

January 21, 2012 at 9:26 am
(41) Wanda says:

Three days ago I had to put my beloved cocker spaniel, Cricket, to sleep. She had pancreatis most of her life and I did an amazing job keeping her going. Then at the end she stopped eating she couldn’t digest food anymore. I tried to force feed. Then she stop drinking. I knew that was the end. I feel so quilty and can’t stop crying. Why couldn’t I have done something with the pancreatis to save her, if I had the money could I have saved her. Reading your stories has help me to realize we all feel this way. I wish I could start a site where a person could go to determine how to treat an animal. Looking after an animal seems so hit or miss, sometimes you get it right and sometimes not. My guilt will never go away. Never. Everyone out there keep your chin up and remember the good times. Write down so you don’t forget.

January 26, 2012 at 2:31 am
(42) Sab says:

My dad just ran over my puppy this morning. He had only just turned 4 months old. Only yesterday i was teaching him a new trick and playing with him around the pool. I am completely and utterly devastated and still in shock. I don’t know ho to handle myself or the situation. A part of me feels like this can’t actually be really happening to me.Reading these comments i realise i’m not the only person to have their best friend so cruelly and suddenly taken away from them, and i’m not alone feeling like this. It doesn’t however help with my pain. I guess only time will do that. Right now, i don’t know what i’m going to do.

March 14, 2012 at 10:45 am
(43) Heather says:

11yrs ago I had to put my 16 yr old boy down. It was very heartbreaking to me, as he was my childhood friend. Most recently I had 3 dogs, one of whom we just had 2months. I was running them all with my vehicle on a back road like always, my boys were up ahead & I thought my girl was further behind like usual as she was still building up her speed & stamina. I was wrong, I hit her & she died just after they carried her into the vets…. I keep replaying everything in my head over & over again… Why wasn’t I Paying more attention, I always kept a good eye on them…. My fianc I know is very upset, though he’s trying not to be. I don’t know how to forgive myself or forget the images & sounds. She trusted me & I killed her….:’(. I know my 2boys still need me, but I feel I don’t deserve them anymore… It was only 2months, but neither of us had met a dog like her that we could fall so hard for. We miss her sooo much…. I was supposed to be her forever home for many yrs….

April 3, 2012 at 6:17 pm
(44) beth says:

I read all of these stories and it makes me cry! I was taking my sick neighbor some morel mushrooms i found today, becouse she is unable to hunt for them (due to a stroke) I started to take off in my truck and felt a bump. I ran over my 14 yr old jack russel, Clipper! I screamed and cried and have been crying all day! and to top it all off my 7yr old daughter watched the whole thing happen! I feel like someone kicked me in the gut! Will i ever get over this guilt?

May 4, 2012 at 2:09 pm
(45) Jessica says:

Yesterday afternoon I accidently ran over my seven year old chihuahua and he died instantly. I havent stopped feeling guilty, or crying, and feel so much pain inside me. It doesnt help that I am five months pregnant so I feel horrible:(. Any advice on how to cope with this horrible loss?? I cant get the images out of head and cant accept that he is gone.

October 11, 2012 at 12:26 pm
(46) Karleen wagner says:

I just ran over my rescued puppy yesteday night…I cant stand the pain. I feel so guilty.He was such a happy dog and I thought he was behind the car,as thats where I saw him last time. I dint even see him, until I felh him under the tire. Tried to stop, but was too late:-((((((((((((.I feel terrible.Dont know what to do,scared of friends and familly asking me what happened to the dog.I was so happy playing with him yesterday. Rest in peace Ovejo:(

November 2, 2012 at 6:30 pm
(47) Eliza Day says:

My condolences to all of you. I can totally relate to the loss and pain you experience when you lose your pet. They’re not just a pet. They’re you bestest friend in the world, part of the family, sometimes almost human themselves.
My beautiful little dog’s life was cut short there a couple of nights ago. I let her out to go to the toilet, she never runs off and always had good recall.
She got a fright from the loud bang of a firework and just took off, I tried to run after her but lost her, then she came running back up the road and I called her but she wouldn’t listen she kept running faster and faster. I tried so hard to run and catch up with her but I couldn’t.
I lost her for a split second then turned to the busy main road beside me and saw her little body lying there motionless. The car never stopped that knocked her down.
There was a break in the traffic so I ran as fast as I could to stop the oncoming cars and managed to pick up her little body. She was dead, her neck had been broken.
I brought her home and my neighbour, who I’m so thankful for, helped me wrap her tight in our favourite blanket.
The guilt I feel, I know it was an accident but she was only 4 years old.
She helped me get through the worst depression, made me get up out of the bed to walk her and because she was so beautiful and had the most beautiful eyes, people would stop and talk to me about her. She helped me to interact with people again and get better.
She was such a sweet funny little girl. She would sleep with me and if she was cold at night, she would tap me on the head to get under the covers. She was so good, my whole extended family adored her.
She was my baby girl. I’m just devastated. Words cannot express how much she meant to me. I just don;t think I’m ever going to get over losing her. The image of her lying motionless in the road is haunting me.
Thanks for reading. It helps to talk about it.

November 20, 2012 at 7:35 pm
(48) dia says:

my condolences to all of you. i feel so sorry for your losses. i, too, am struggling.
it so helps to hear that i am not alone with my feelings of loss and pain. i am grieving so much much over the loss of my beloveds…
5 years ago i chose to put my beloved 18 year old chihuahua, Kita, to sleep. she suddenly became immobile and was in a great amount of pain. i asked my vet if there was anything that could be done. he responded that if i could come up with a cure for old age, we would both be very wealthy. i thought i chose to do the right thing ~ but am still plagued with guilt.
a year and a half ago i got a new love. a german shepherd puppy, Dita.
she was an absolute joy. so full of love. she would greet me every morning with a toy and a wiggle. she loved to play and swim and was the core to our family.
yesterday morning i woke up at 5 am from guilt about putting to sleep my beloved chihuahua, Kita. I relive this moment often.
Then last night, on my way up the driveway, i looked to make sure the gate was closed as i drove in.
the gate was closed. i pulled up the driveway slowly. somehow, my beloved german shepherd, Dita, got underneath my car and i ran over her.
i dont know what to do. i have never seen my husband cry like this.
i lost my little fuzzy wolfy face. she was such an amazing girl.
i took today off from work so that i could get her cremated.
i am a total wreck.
i cant believe what i have done.
i just wish so much that i could get both my girls back.
how do i move forward?

December 10, 2012 at 12:39 pm
(49) marla says:

A week ago my friends dog turned on her and attacked her being the 3rd person he had attacked! She got away from him long enough to get her gun n shoot him twice. She isn’t doing so good and how can I make her feel better. I can’t imagine the guilt she’s feeling!

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January 6, 2013 at 8:18 pm
(51) Kate says:

Sorry for your loss!
Something similar happened to me. My four month old Cavalier King Charles was outside playing with my older dog when I was away.(someone was at home) when I got home later on that day, I found out my pup had been run over by a car. It’s been 2 months since she’s gone and its been really hard on me.(didn’t even get to see her that morning) I am still very heartbroken and am lost without her.

January 10, 2013 at 9:07 pm
(52) Connie says:

I am sooo sorry for all of us that have lost a dear friend. On Tuesday morning I got up and went through the normal routine of feeding and letting the dogs out, i usually leave the door open so the cats can go out on th deck. I went back in and started to look at FB I heard the neighbor dog barking outside so I went out to look and he had my 18 year old cat Amanda cornered by the house. I screamed at him and ran for her but before i got to them he grabbed her. He dropped her really fast and I got her o the vet but she had gone into shock. I don’t know why she wasin the yard, she was so old that she almost never went past the deck, that dog has been here almost daily for the past 2 years I don’t understand why he attacked her. I am overcome with guilt because I let this happen. She depended on me to protect her and I feel like I let her down so bad. I can’t eat, I don’t want to get up in the morning, I see her everywhere and I just keep thinking that she was waiting for me to rescue her and I failed.

January 14, 2013 at 12:04 pm
(53) karen says:

Hi everyone,

It has been comforting although sad to read your comments of your loss. I was just putting windsheild wiper fluid in my car. My cat, Arielle, was sitting across the street on the step. However, I could see her start walking down the cement steps to cross over to me. I know how much she loved me and I think she was just showing me that she loved me and was coming over to the parking lot. It was a rainy nite 6 weeks ago, Dec. 2, 2012 and I thought she would be alright since I live in a townhouse development. Oddly enough, I saw a dog come between the cars which In a second must have startled Arielle. She was only 6 years old and mostly white with green eyes. I then saw the dog running around the tree near me but no Arielle. I looked for her until 2:00am in the morning. The next day I walked around the townhouse block. I saw something white under a bush and there was Arielle dead. It was surreal since her eyes were glassy eyes and she was cold and in rigor mortis. She had been hit by a car I and made it back up the hill and under a bush to die. My vet examined her and said that her death was pretty quick. There is shame for my stupidity in thinking that my pet was exempt from the dangers of a car or outside animals. It is the worst lesson of my life and the grief surpasses that of my father’s death. Arielle was my soulmate. When I looked at her there was instant electricity. She actually would fall over to the ground and look up at me when I talked to her. I wail every nite for her… I have gone to a grief support group and counseling but my shame and guilt for not keeping her indoors plague me. I just want to hold her again and feel her nose against my lips. We would sit on the stoop in early morning just to watch the deer. I thought I would have her another 10 years at least. My heart is broken.

February 20, 2013 at 10:34 am
(54) mark says:

I’ve just had my little dog put to sleep after 16 years. I had her since she was 7 weeks old.
I’m heartbroken and miss her so much.
It’s important to realise that our final gift to the animals we love is putting them to sleep when the time is right.
We don’t give other humans that release, instead keeping them alive in misery and torment for months on end.
Anyone who has loved and taken care of any animal doesn’t deserve to feel guilty, but i know people still do.
I wonder where she’s gone and if i’ll ever see her again.
I think were we to define true love, it is the love we feel for our pets.

Rest in peace Pippy girl.

Daddy loves you and always will.

February 28, 2013 at 1:28 pm
(55) Jtb says:

So much sadness and heartbreak, reading all your stories. My little dog William was run over by the postman this morning. He was a rescue and had had a hard life before coming to us. He was so happy with us and we had only had him six months. He was loved by everyone who knew him and I am racked with guilt at letting him be out to be run over and heartbroken at losing such a lovely little soul. I know that the pain of losing him is outweighed by the joy of having him and giving him a brief, happy life, but I have never felt so torn apart by losing a dog.

March 25, 2013 at 7:06 pm
(56) Evelyn says:

My husband ran over our dog this morning by mistake. He was only a year and a half old. I feel so guilty because we moved out to the country and we were letting him run around free outside, which he loved…but I wish I would have been more dilagent about getting him inside or having something in place outside for him that would be safer for him. I miss him so much and am so torn up inside over this. I feel like old age would bring me some comfort, but the fact that he was so young just makes it that much harder. The letter I wrote to my boy Petey is on my blog.

March 30, 2013 at 4:05 am
(57) Eve Parris says:

When you are faced with making the decision to euthanize a pet, please listen to your animal. If you are open to hearing what they have to say, rather than drowning in your own sadness, denial, guilt, etc.. your pet will tell you when she is ready to go.
Please don’t allow yourself to make the selfish decision to keep a suffering animal alive just to alleviate your own guilt. Euthanasia is a unique gift you can give to your pet… the only right animals have that humans do not. Please don’t deny your pet this humane option when the time is right.
You have the legal ability to end suffering, and you have the ability to PREVENT suffering. Please don’t waste this unique opportunity to help a friend in need. Euthanizing a pet who would appreciate it is no reason to feel guilt. However, NOT euthanizing a suffering pet is a definitely a legitimate reason to feel guilt.
Having been responsible for withdrawing life support from my own Mother, I can say with conviction that euthanasia by lethal injection is a far better way to go. We should cherish and take advantage of this final gift we can offer to our pets.
Difficult as it may be to understand when you are in the middle of a sad situation, there is simply NO reason to feel bad for euthanizing a pet. For the pet, no time is too soon. From their perspective it is just one more diagnostic blood draw or simply a sedative before being spayed.
Be kind to a suffering pet. Don’t allow a selfish need to keep a pet with you stop you from granting your pet the kindest, greatest gift of all.

March 30, 2013 at 7:21 pm
(58) Anonymous says:

Someone please help me :/ this is how it all started. Two days ago I came home and seen my dog chewing on something. I try to take the plastic that he was chewing on away from him, he ran away from me. So I chased him into my living room. He dropped the plastic out of his mouth and he ran. I finally caught up to him and I picked him up. All of a sudden his neck, leaned to the left and he started yowling and barking like he was in pain. I put him down and his neck stayed to the left and he was spinning in circles on the ground and still yowling. I was terrified. My sister picked him up but he stopped barking, didnt breathe, and looked lifeless hos body was dangling we gave him CPR but still he would not wake back up. We layed him on our floor and watched him for 2 hours to see if he would show any sign of life but nothing. His eyes are still open but he wasn’t breathing at all. We figured he is dead so I put him in a box taped it up and buried him. My mom keeps saying what if he’s not dead and still alive and what if im the one who buried him alive and he suffocated in the box. I’ve been having this guilt in me for the past 2 days since my puppy died. I think in my mine all the time like what if im the one who killed him im such a terrible person ;( I have’t eat that much lately and I have been crying these past days. This guilt lingers in me making me feel depressed in horrible. Im a 17 year old girl who needs advice and a person to hel me out. Its killing me inside day by day I dont want to feel this guilt anymore ;(

April 5, 2013 at 6:06 am
(59) Little Rabbit says:

To Anonymous:
Please do not feel guilty! I do not know why your mother would say such a thing. If the eyes were open, and the body is getting cold and stiff, the animal has passed away and is dead. My precious little Bambi Baby was hit by a car – we live in an extremely rural area, almost wilderness. There are hardly ever cars on the dirt road. She was a beautiful brown and white Papillon and was 5 years old. She was a snuggler, and snuggled at night with myself, and sometimes with my sons. She loved cheese so much – just the sound of the wrapper on a slice or block of cheese and she would be right there. The woman who ran her over was crying and crying and kept telling me she was so sorry. I just wanted her to leave. She had her dog in the car with her. In my opinion she was driving too fast. Bambi’s eyes were open and she was motionless. There was no blood, but her skull was crushed – I could feel it. Your dog is not under dirt suffering, and you did not kill the dog. He or she is in heaven with God and is no longer suffering. Bambi went everywhere with us. She was happy and energetic. We love her and miss her so much. i hope she knows how much she was loved during her time here on earth. Also where we live people are not friendly at all, and my sons are so lonely. Our animals have kept us company because the people around here are so cold and rude. We have been here 10 years. We were in the process of moving and are sad she didn’t make it with us.

April 17, 2013 at 10:53 am
(60) Cher says:

Sorry to everyone I hope each day becomes easier.

Last night I was babysitting my friends’ little dog. I know her well & love her. She is under 5. I was responsible for her and was at a friend’s house. At the end of the night, a guest left the house & returned to graba jacket he’d left behind. He left the door ajar & she-dog ran out on to a busy street and was hit -full impact.

It is the worst thing that I have ever experienced. I’m not exaggerating. I have been crushed about witnessing a friend’s dog have an accident.

I’m reeling. The owners have been understanding & sympathetic to my own state which is so kind. I’ve said sorry too many times and have been honest about the whole event.

I miss her so much but know I need to keep myself together for their (the owners) sakes too.

How do you be sorry but in a respectful way. Any discussion on ideas to help the owners would be appreciated.

Thanks, Cher (if I could turn back time, If I could find a way, I’d take back….

May 14, 2013 at 11:08 am
(61) Lucia says:

Please forgive me for any errors…I have never ever made comments on line to any links…
On May 13, 2012 at approximately 12:35 PM I got a call from husband screaming that Rocky is dead…..I felt all the blood drain out of me and my body went numb as he explained what happen….He was backing his car into our garage and my son never shut the inside door completely and Rocky who is a 10lb. minature datschund pushed the door open and went into the garage looking for my husband. Needless to say my husband never saw him and ran him over. He was a healthy 13 year old who at times thought he was still a puppy. I am trying as best I know on how to deal with what happen, but my concerns are for my husband and my son. Wherever my husband was Rocky was. When my husband was diagnosed with cancer 10 years ago Rocky never left his side. He was so sick at times and Rocky would just lie next to him and comfort him.. My son is blaming himself for what happen and is really struggling. He left our house right after it happened and does not want to come back home saying he could never look my husband in the eye again. So many other terrible things have happened to my son in the past that I am really worried about him….too many too mention but just a lot of bad luck!!! So I can’t really grieve for my little dog because I am so worried about my husband and son….I feel like I have to be the strong one on the outside but my insides are a tangled mess. I guess I’ll stop writing at this point because I feel like I am starting to babble. Although by writing this it felt good to get some of this terrible tragedy off my chest.
My condolences to everyone on this page who has had a similiar experience:((( and thanks for listening even if I am not making to much sense…..

May 14, 2013 at 12:54 pm
(62) Lucia says:

May 13, 2013 is probably one of the worst days of my life, which I will never ever forget. My husband called me at work at approximately 12:35 PM screaming that our dog Rocky was dead. My body went numb and it felt like all the blood in my body left. When I contained my self, I asked him what happened? As he was backing his car into the garage he ran over Rocky. My son apparently did not shut the inside door to the garage all the way and Rocky pushed it open. The feelings I am dealing with are all so jumbled up, the loss of my dog and so worried about my husband and son. My husband and Rocky were practically in separable When my husband was diagnosed with cancer 10 years Rocky never left his side throughout all his treatments Rocky would lie next to him and comfort him…..I really and truly believe with all of my heart that its because of Rocky that my husband beat that horrible disease…. As for my son right after this happen he left our house and doesn’t want to come back home. He is blaming himself for what happen and said he can’t face my husband. I am really worried about him for the fact that he has already been through so many terrible things in his life and just when the future was starting to look brighter for him this happened. Between worrying about my husband and son’s feelings I have not dealt with my feelings and how much I miss my dog…and how sick I am over this situation….I have never ever wrote anything on any website before, so please forgive me, I am not the best writer. My condolences to everyone on this page for what they had to endure and thanks for giving me the opportunity to try and express my feeling on this page…..

May 17, 2013 at 9:06 am
(63) Christine says:

My sons ridgeback dog got into the house and killed my tiny dog they were kept separate for three years even tho both were not aggressive but as my dog was 13yrs old and the other 4yrs we thought it was wise my sons dog slept with him in self contained bungalow and my little dog lived inside and slept with me what the sad result is now my son is saying he will leave home with his dog so I can get another dog but I don’t want him to leave but I am so sad and lonely without my little dog and as it only happened 3days ago I still can’t look at his dog as I was the only one home when it happened and I feel so guilty I couldn’t save her and even tho I pulled his dog of her it was to late and my dog died in my arms I haven’t felt like this before how can I keep my son from leaving home and will I be able to forgive his dog who I loved and spent a lot of time with

May 21, 2013 at 3:20 am
(64) Sandee says:

I HAVE LOST A SHITSU AFTER 15 YEARS OF TOTAL LOVE AND HAVING PUT HIM TO SLEEP I CANT FORGIVE MYSELF . I MADE A PROMISE AFTER A MONTH OF TRYING EVERYTHING THAT ONE LAST TRY OF TAKING HIM TO A PUPPY CHIROPRACTOR THAT IF THAT DIDNT WORK THERE WAS NOTHING ELSE LEFT TO TRY..INSTEAD OF WAITING A WEEK OR TWO THE DAY AFTER I JUST LOOKED AT HIM AND MADE THE CALL..NOW I KNOW CLEARLY I MADE THE DECISION TO SOON AND NOW I CANT MOVE FORWARD CAUSE I KNOW I NEVER GAVE THE TREATMENT A CHANCE TO SHOW IF IT WOULD HAVE WORKED..THIS GRIEF WONT GO AWAY CAUSE OF A POOR CHOICE…

May 21, 2013 at 11:07 am
(65) laura says:

My husband and I took our two dogs on dirt roads all the time. They went every where with us. To the store, my parents, fishing. We were at the lakes all the time. We would run them on dirt roads all the time and they would stay far away from the truck. My Romeo was one heck of a lover. He would come out of no where and just lay against me or lay his head on my lap. He was quite the snuggler in bed. on April 14th 2013…One snowy lazy Sunday we decide to go for a ride and run the dogs on the usual dirt road. Our big older chocolate lab/husky mix gal was in front of us like usual. Our little Romeo (looked like a miniture yellow lab with maybe some pit) He was almost three years old. He was behind us. We both saw him behind the truck so my husband sped up a bit but there was a wierd bump. I think he must have sprinted to be with my other dog. He loved her. I look in the rear view mirror and my baby Romeo was on the ground. I ran to him picked him up and carried him to the truck and we sped off to the vet. We brought him inside and onto the table. CONTINUED….

May 21, 2013 at 11:08 am
(66) LAURA says:

CONTINUED…. The Vet looked him over kind of half ass. Romeo was looking around and I could tell he was in pain. I could kind of see a tire mark across his chest. He would lay his head on my arm <3 . The vet gave him somthing to help with shock. He tried to take blood from his leg but didnt really get anything and didnt try again. which was wierd. The vet took a clamp to his back feet to see if they felt anything. It didnt look like it but he was moving his legs while we were in the truck.. The vet kind of just walked around whisteling. Then grabbed Romeos file and came back. He didnt do much of anything. He said these kind of things need time and work it self out. So he carried my Romeo to a kennel/ cage and wrapped him in a blanket. Which was good because Romeo loved to snuggle in blankets. My husband and I stroked his head and petted him and loved on him and he layed his head on my husbands arm but the vet said we had to go and he would call us in an hour to tell us how he is doing. WE DIDNT THINK HE WOULD PASS AWAY!!! :( We just broke down at home. With guilt that we left him there alone probably in the dark. I would have loved to be there with him and snuggle and love him. our poor baby. We couldnt eat for days. We felt sick. We felt depressed. empty. Our other dog was depressed to poor ol gal. Its been a little over a month now. It hasnt gotten easier. We cant go to all our usual spots. The lakes, the dirt roads… It will be to hard and heartbreaking….We think of ALL those great times we have and its good but then its just way to sad because we never get those times again. He was our little baby boy.

May 21, 2013 at 11:17 am
(67) LAURA says:

CONTINUED…..The Vet looked him over kind of half ass. Romeo was looking around and I could tell he was in pain. I could kind of see a tire mark across his chest. He would lay his head on my arm <3 . I was caressing his head and loving on him…The vet gave him something to help with shock. He tried to take blood from his leg but didnt really get anything and didnt try again. which was wierd. The vet took a clamp to his back feet to see if they felt anything. It didnt look like it but he was moving his legs while we were in the truck.. The vet kind of just walked around whisteling. Then grabbed Romeos file and came back. He didnt do much of anything. He said these kind of things need time and work it self out. So he carried my Romeo to a kennel/ cage and wrapped him in a blanket. Which was good because Romeo loved to snuggle in blankets. My husband and I stroked his head and petted him and loved on him and he layed his head on my husbands arm but the vet said we had to go and he would call us in an hour to tell us how he is doing. WE DIDNT THINK HE WOULD PASS AWAY!!! :( We just broke down at home. With guilt that we left him there alone probably in the dark. I would have loved to be there with him and snuggle and love him. our poor baby. We couldnt eat for days. We felt sick. We felt depressed. empty. Our other dog was depressed to poor ol gal. Its been a little over a month now. It hasnt gotten easier. We cant go to all our usual spots. The lakes, the dirt roads… It will be to hard and heartbreaking….We think of ALL those great times we have and its good but then its just way to sad because we never get those times again. He was our little baby boy.

May 21, 2013 at 12:22 pm
(68) Momma says:

I’m so very sorry for everyone’s loss. I understand and feel the same kind of pain and emptiness without our little boy. We got him 2 and half years ago and he was our baby. He slept at the foot of the bed, we played with him every night before bed. He went with me everywhere. When i cooked he always got his own treat to eat and as soon as he heard the fridge open or a spoon or any sound in the kitchen that could relate to food he was in there. He would whine and get excited looking out the window or door when any of us would get home and would be right there togreet us when the door opened. We had purchased a home in the country and would get the dog all excited telling him soon you’ll be a country dog and can be a real dog. I’m home alone thru the day most days and i would talk to him and sing to him he loved when i sung you are my sunshine to him. We closed on the house friday and got the keys and couldnt wait to get out there and watch him run. He was a little skiddish at first, and he had been there every time we went so he could get used to it. and soon as he’d see the fields he had to put his head out the window and tail waggin. I had to keep gettin him out of my car and tellin him go play little buddy you get to be a dog now. well when his buddy got there with my daughter (a mini dachsun) he had no problem running and playing then. (continue)

May 21, 2013 at 12:24 pm
(69) momma says:

(continued) There hadnt even been a vehicle come down the road while we were there. We saw their tails disappear in the woods and we were happy they were gettin to be dogs and have fun. I go inside to get a drink, and soon as i step outside on the porch i hear what sounded like a big log being ran over by a truck that was coming up the road. I said what was that… my sweetie looked around and said it was harley our dog. the other dog was back at the house and for whatever reason harley decided to explore across the street down past the woods. Both pass. tires ran over him and we could all hear it. the guy never even bothered to try to miss him just run both tires over him. He had almost made it across the road comin home, and the truck must’ve been driving down the middle of the road he could’ve easily missed our little boy. everyone ran out there and sure enough there he was lying motionless in the road on his side. all of sudden his body twitched and i thought he was alive but i guess it was him dying. My bf carried him up down the road back to the house where he sat for a long time holding him and everyone crying. The mini dachsund was moaning and crying trying to get to his buddy, they’d been buddies their whole life. We cant stop the what if’s and the why’s . Everyones daily routine has changed and every little thing is hard now. cookin in the kitchen, as the new house has to be remodeled before we can move in, so its painful to go to either house and my mind will not stop thinking about him or the sound of him being ran over. my heart is so broken i just cant deal with it. I’m so sorry harley the guy in the truck took my sunshine away.

May 24, 2013 at 5:25 am
(70) Rowan Fraser says:

Busy ‘road days ago my lurcher nearly three shot out of my gate when I was taking her for a night pee, chasing a deer and she ran in to the road and was killed by a car. Everyone who loves me tells me it wasn’t my fault. But it was my fault, in the two years we have lived here she disappeared four times for twenty minutes and then came back, so I knew she had the capacity to take off. Everyday I would I drive out to safer places to walk her, yet I had started to let her off the lead a while ago where we live because she was a private crapper, but also we both liked her freedom. The deer, and the timing of the car were a tradgick accident but I knew that the intermitantly busy road and her speed a covering ground. The grief and pain are terrible, she really helped me and my mother over the worst phase of the grief of my fathers unexpected death. I have lost my closet friend and my mum’s lost her joy and the hope that my Corry would help me through my mums death. I can’t believe what havoc has been reeked by my inconsistency in care. My mum accepts my guilt at not keeping her on a lead but given all the grief and stress and anxiety I have in my life, but for me our circumstances makes it worse, I knew how extrodinarily precious and I failed her. My mum might not live out the year , so my grief and guilt and worry is compounded by it it the best thing to get another dog almost immediately, cos waiting a year or two is way too long for my mum . At times like these I see how the comfort of faith might help, sadly I just can’t believed in it.

May 29, 2013 at 7:29 pm
(71) Trish says:

So very sorry for everyone’s pain. I too experienced the most searing grief I ever have when I found my three and a half year old baby cat Little Joe dead outside my front door on the morning of May 14, 2013. So timid a cat he was that he never even went in the front yard. But I guess the cover of night and his love of mouse hunting brought him to the road where barely a car goes by every two hours at that wee hour of the morning. But one did and she was struck and killed.
Just to see him lying on his side with his eyes glassy and open when the night before he was a happy healthy playful young cat the night before was horrible. I hope all of us who have lost our dear babies can gain some peace from sharing our grief. I’ll love you and miss you for ever Little Joe.

June 7, 2013 at 2:58 pm
(72) Alvie Roach says:

I’m sorry .I know you and your wife are hurting as I had to put my cat Honey to sleep 2 days ago. Remember God’s in charge and we will never be sure the path he chooses for us. Every experience is put before us to help us learn, sometimes painfully what to do and not to do. Experience is a cruel teacher. Hope you two are felling better soon.

June 8, 2013 at 10:21 am
(73) yakov's mom says:

My precious jack russel passed on yesterday-(June 7 2013) he was in renal failure and we had to put his to sleep he would have been 10 years old on July 4 2013. I am bereft. Although it is not the first time I have lost a loving pet, this one seems so very difficult. I have had him since he was 8 weeks, His littermate is sad as well, he knew he had been sick these past few months.

I am jewish and I followed the ritual of cutting my clothes, and recited the prayers for my sweet loving dog.
Perhaps a similar ritual that we would follow for our human loved ones is also appropriate-I created a prayer of comfort brochure with his photo.

I will miss him terribly for a long time-but I know he is not suffering anymore, when I am sad, I think of my mom who died 30 years ago, holding him, until I am re-united with all of them.

My heartfelt condolences to all of you on your losses. Your love and caring of God’s creatures shows you have tender hearts.

June 26, 2013 at 6:52 pm
(74) RICHARD SMITH says:

Two weeks ago I lost my beautiful 6 month old Podenco Canario puppy “Ronnie” or “Ronpodimibob” as I called him, we had only just completed the adoption to become his forever parents.

Id had a long few days at work and was relaxing on the sofa with him when I remembered I had left some documents in the car. I went out to get them and left him relaxing with his toys in a really chilled state after our 45 minute long run and walk just earlier. I didnt close the door, but our garden has a 6ft wall all around the 4 sides, as I was bending into the car (parked on the street just outside our gate) out of the corner of my eye he ran past Id left the driveway gate ajar with my foot in it to stop me getting locked out. Somehow he has sneaked past at high speed. We live on a street with just 7 homes, he ran straight under the wheels of our neighbours Jeep who was returning home. At first I thought he had broken a leg, but he quickly started vomiting blood. I picked him up in a towel and my neighbour drove me to the nearest emergency vet 10 minutes away, he was dead by the time we arrived. He passed away in my arms, Ill never forget it

June 26, 2013 at 6:53 pm
(75) RICHARD SMITH says:

Ronnie Im so sorry, I feel terrible, when I adopted you I promised to look after you forever and put you before me. I loved you so much that I tried to keep you alive by holding your head up to stop you bleeding, In my clouded state of panic I didnt know your lung was punctured and by holding your head up I drowned you. I hope you can forgive me I never meant to hurt you, only to care for you, I rescued you from a bad home because I wanted to give you a fantastic life as my new best friend. Im sorry I never got to fulfil those promises I made you. You were
fantastic, despite your hard life before you came to us, you were trusting and loving and the fastest dog Ive ever seen, I will miss you so much, I hope one day I can forgive myself. Sorry from the bottom of my broken heart, if I could change places and take the blow from the car I would.

June 27, 2013 at 12:39 pm
(76) Filitsa says:

I’m so sorry for your loss, Ronnie will forever be with you just like I hope my dog will be with me!
I had to put my 8 month old dog down just two days ago after being hit by a speeding car. It was my fault, it was all my fault!! He was in the back yard playing and found a small hole in the fence to squeeze out of and he just ran, ran right into the street and looked back at me and with a face like mommy I’m free, come chase me I’m not doing anything wrong just playing! And I couldn’t stop him I couldn’t get to him fast enough and a car just hit him leaving him paralyzed on the side of the road. I rushed him to the vet and the only decision I had was to put him down. I cry non stop and can’t seem to even begin to forgive myself. He was my life, my light, my joy and happiness. He was the air I breathed everyday.
I hope wherever my baby is he’s as happy as he made me and I can die at the thought of never seeing him again so I hope for the sake of all who have lost a pet that we will be reunited with them one day and all our pain can go away.

July 11, 2013 at 10:15 am
(77) rey says:

I’m so depressed right now. i came home this afternoon driving my car and i saw my puppy running towards the car, very happy and excited to see me. i was slowly driving, afraid, if they are under the car, so i slowly drive but suddenly i felt something under the tire, it was my puppy, then i went down and saw my puppy milky bleed and i was so shocked and didnt want to see him that way, i killed my own milky! im so guilty and i cant stop crying, even now, im crying while im writing this, im so so so guilty. i didnt want that to happen, i should have went down first and made sure he was not there under the tire. oh please God forgive me. sorry milky, please forgive me, i love you so much, u know that, and u know how i take care of you. im really really sorry…… i love you so much. Lord give me strength to accept this..

July 16, 2013 at 4:32 pm
(78) allen says:

i am sorry to hear all these stories. last weekend my baby girl Lulu was ran over in the middle of my street and the person never stopped to ask or attempt to see were she lived. I never let her out and just run with out me being there to protect her. she was one years old when we got her from the spcla. and has been part of our family for the past 6 1/2 years. i was loading clothes to got to the homeless shelter when i was walking out front there she was laying in the street with her head ran over. i am taking it so hard, and taking the blame for not being there for her. she has been there for me so many times and the one time she really needed me to protect her.

July 18, 2013 at 12:48 pm
(79) Wendy says:

Directly after stepping off the plane from a great holiday I was told my best friend cassie had been ill and sent to sleep. She was 15 years 10 months and we had her as a puppy. She was a loyal and loving jack Russell cross who had bought us so much joy. She wasn’t a perfect dog but what she lacked in manners she made up for in personality and general all round greatness. She had a deteriorating heart murmur but was fine when we left her in the excellent care of my parents. Within two days she was sick and was a fighter till the end. I don’t have children and she was my baby and shadow. It’s so hard as she was my go to when I was sad, she would lick away tears and look at me with a confused face. Where do I go now my tears are for her. My mum and dad were there at the end and my brother in law buried her in her favourite garden spot. All I’m left with is the tears her old collar and favourite snow flake shaped toy to console me. I miss her so much and am sad I didn’t get to say goodbye. I know the right decision was made and am so pleased my family stepped up so well. She was there through so many milestones my wedding day, family bereavements and holidays. She was the runt of her litter but not of our family.

RIP Cassie we love you xxx

July 23, 2013 at 7:20 am
(80) Nicole says:

I ran my dog over last night. I was on my way home and there was an intersection half a mile from our house. For some reason I’ve always had a bad feeling about that area. I’ve always thought I’m gonna get hit by an incoming car or one of my pet gets out and get hit. I should’ve trusted my instinct. It was dark, and the only light I had was my head lights and all of a sudden my dear boy, Prince (Newfoundland) popped in front of my vehicle!! The look on his face… He looked so scared. He managed to run away from my vehicle and made it to the neighbors yard and collapsed. Im still having flashbacks from what happened. He died on my arms. It happened so fast. I didn’t know what to do. My eyes are about shut from crying. I lost my best friend!!! I don’t think I can forgive myself about this. I’m just trying not to stress cus I’m pregnant but I can’t help it. I love Prince as if he was my own child. Now he’s gone. I can’t believe I ended his life.

July 29, 2013 at 4:28 am
(81) Phillip says:

I killed my dog too. He was so sweet and precious to me and my wife. His name is Kai and I loved him more then I knew was possible to love an animal.

Long story short, I accidentally forgot him in the car and he died from heat stroke. It has been almost 3 weeks now and I am still really having a hard time; as is my wife.

It is heartbreaking and I miss Kai’s presence in our home and life.

I miss you so much little buddy, you taught us so much and brought great joy to your parents.

July 29, 2013 at 9:10 am
(82) PETER says:

reading these posts has brought me in contact with people feeling extreme pain…as I am in now after accidently reversing over my darling beautiful all grey cat Minky…it happened last T..he was always about our communal car-park..something that worried me from time to time..he came out to say bye as usual..I played with him in a mock fight as he lay on the ground…i got in the car and normally Minky would skedaddle at the sound of my engine starting…and normally I’d do a visual check around to spot him before moving off …i didnt do this on thurs 1am…and reversed over him…the sight of him scampering off limping and then finding him dead behind the bush he disappeard roound, is seared in my mind and Ive just cried constantly in the 4days since it happened.Ive had my share of pain in life…but nothing really compares to this.. i dont want to compare ..i feel the loss of Minky deep deep in my soul…and my guilt is overwhelming because I was the one who caused Minky to die….I AM heartened…and really have extra sadness for some of your stories…it has helped me think a bit clearer and realise the depth of pain and guilt we all feel…there is no fix for this i know…but sharing this utter grief has helped…thanks so much for just being here…God bless every last one of you…

July 29, 2013 at 9:32 am
(83) PETER says:

Minky came into my life over 11years ago…as a little stray at my door..selfishly and not wanting to ‘commit’ to a pet fed him something but didnt let him in(thinking perhaps a neighbour on the block would do that)..he must have remembered cos he was back next day…another look in those beautiful eyes and hearing that little miaow..i let him in and he’d been here ever since…we really did get to know each other in happy and sad times for us both..he’d got sick a couple of times and i nursed him well…i got heartbroken and upset with life now and then and he nursed me in his own way..just sat on my lap at those crucial times…
Im still in shock I know but breaking down in front of my girlfriend last night(ive stayed away from home as it has been too painful to be there)..but today is a little easier..inwont think of tomorrow ….without Minky life was looking really bleak..but there is a warmth there today that wasnt there yesterday and im sure reading your comments has helped too..thanks again folks

August 5, 2013 at 11:07 pm
(84) Sedona says:

I am so confused, and sad. My dad accidentally left his 13 year old lab in the car and forgot about her for two days. I just found out. I got this dog when i was 8. I dont understand how to feel and i feel so bad for my dad because i know that he is beating himself up and doubting his sanity. He was excited about his friends birthday and jumped out of the car to load his truck with presents for her and went to her house. When he thought about O.B. ( his dog) he assumed she just wandered off, like she always does. He lives right by a park and bikepath and everyone knows O.B. and she always ends up coming home. My dad only uses the car to drive to work in a town 63 miles from our home and when he opened the door this morning to get in, he found her. He said it was just all he had to keep it together at work today. He is an optometrist and he works on disabled vets all day. He said the tragedy put their lives in perspective, but it is still weighing too heavy to cope. I dont know what to do or how to handle this, but i hope that my story can help someone else.

August 7, 2013 at 4:55 pm
(85) H says:

I am very sorry for you loss, but I have too killed my dog and it was the worst day of my life and have suffered for it every day since. It was foggy and I skidded in my car and I tried turning out of it which didn’t work so I turned into the skid speeding us up and putting my dog into the tree first which ended up killing him and saving me. After rolling through a field at 8am on a Sunday morning, hidden behind the tree and bushes that we had flown about 6ft over, I looked to my left and he wasn’t in his bed but his toy was. so I checked the car despite it having no windows or a roof, then I noticed his seat belt hanging out of the window but he wasn’t in it, the clip had snapped as we rolled and he had been thrown out. I got of to find him dead on the floor and I was standing completely unharmed with out even a scratch. I was literally him instead of me and the guilt is killing me! Calling his name and seeing the last twitch of his tail is all I see everyday.I was then not found for 45 minutes.
This was a dog who has a youtube channel, did demonstrations (which was where we had been) did charity work in hospitals and care homes, he was an assistance dog for my mother and loved to work, even shut the door after himself waved when people left the house. he was the perfect dog, only barked on command and won every competition we entered. He was only 6. This has left me living in constant fear and crying every da. He was my best friend and the only one I had on Christmas eve and the only one to give me some confidence IT’s NOT FAIR, but until now I believed I was the only person who had killed their dog, so at least I am not alone! SO thank you !

August 26, 2013 at 4:43 pm
(86) Kim says:

Two evenings ago, we took our dog Scout to our friends lake house. Hes been there 50 times at least. All the dogs were running around and we were swimming in the lake. Scout loves to scout around and sniff and pee on stuff. He has always stayed around us in the past. We couldnt find him. We looked for hours. Finally we went the next day to get poster board for a sign. The road is at least a mile and a half away. We cant even see the road from the lake. He had walked the beach since the water is extremely low and walked up to the highway. I found him the next day in the center of a narrow bridge flat. He had been run over so many times what I had to id him from the collar. It was horrible. He didnt even resemble a dog anymore. He was 16 and SO loved. We had to scoop him up with a shovel and put him in a bag. I fell on my knees on the side of the highway and howled with pain. I cant get that vision out of my head. I feel so sorry hes body was decimated like that. He deserved so much more.

August 26, 2013 at 5:02 pm
(87) Kim2 says:

Now I would like to talk about Scout. He was a free spirit. He didn’t like to cuddle but he was a very loyal dog. He would always want to be were I was. He followed me around and laid in the room I was in. He slept at my feet until he couldn’t jump up on the bed anymore. He was 16 and still running around spry as he could be. He was about 20 pounds and black as jet except the grey on his face. He had little sticking out bottom teeth. He loved to run free and sniff and pee. He loved pets (getting petted). We had just put in a doggie door last year and he was loving that. He had total control! He loved to ride in the car and stick his nose out and smell all the smells. He slept in his little bed by my bed and used and chase rabbits in his sleep and make noises. He was a sweet dog and I miss him so much. Scout, I love you and miss you. Rest in Peace my dear companion.

August 29, 2013 at 4:15 am
(88) XiaoShu says:

I am so sorry for everyone’s losses, I can only imagine how traumatic such an accident can be, but the truth is accidents do happen and you shouldn’t feel guilty for something that happens in a matter of seconds and that you cannot control. We all experience some form of guilt after losing our furbabies and I think each of us feels, in some form of another, that they failed their babies. In my case it wasn’t an accident but a string of stupid decisions, failing to inform myself and procrastination on my part that led to my baby’s death. In a way, this is infinitely worse, because it was entirely in my hands and yet, out of ignorance and crass stupidity, I ended up hurting him while thinking I was doing the best for him.

September 3, 2013 at 7:30 pm
(89) Shae says:

Yesterday I had to put my 6 year old chihuahua down he went to the vet on Friday and they told us he had a stage 5 of 6 heart murmor and that it was CHF and they gave us medicine to try over the weekend and see if it improved him at all…… He started to improve and wasn’t choking gagging or coughing at all i really thought he was getting better….. Then Monday morning me and my husband were sleeping and Choco was at the foot of our bed and he woke up coughing and choking and gasping to breathe !! It was the worst it had ever sounded i held him and pet him and kissed him and I bawled…. Finally after a few hours passed i felt he was struggling and suffering! So i called the er get and we took him in…. There the vet said he was filling up with fluid and he was basically struggling to stay alive…… She told me that we could try Medicine but she didnt think it would help…… So after that i had to make the decision to put my baby boy to sleep!!!! I stayed with him no matter how much it hurt because i didnt want him to be alone!!!! Now it is the next day and i can’t stop crying every second of the day i keep hearing him coughing and choking and i hear him whining at my side which is what he would do to let me know he wanted to be with me on the couch….. I am sick to my stomach and my eyes burn so bad….. I am going crazy!!! How will I ever get over this?? It hurts soo bad and i don’t know what to do?

September 11, 2013 at 5:58 am
(90) XiaoShu says:

Dear Shae,

I’m so very sorry for your loss. I know how awful those first days are, when the pain is still raw. This website has been a great help to me, perhaps it can help you as well: http://www.petloss.com/ Check out the message board and the chat room, everyone there is very generous and compassionate and sharing your pain with people who have been through this and understand makes it a little more bearable. Sending you thoughts of peace and comfort!

October 1, 2013 at 2:38 pm
(91) Samantha says:

Hi everyone, I’m writing in hopes of being able to vent somewhat. Sunday morning I went to pull out of my driveway to go for a run and as I had my head turned looking at the back of the car to make sure it was clear, my dog Cooper run under the front of the vehicle. I heard the thump noise and wasn’t sure what it was. I had no idea that he was even outside, and he even knows better to get near a moving vehicle. My husband and children were in the house and all I could do was scream and when I saw that it was my precious dog that I had just ran over. My husband and I have had cooper for 8 years and he was my best friend. We had another beagle but she ran away last year and never came home. The year I have spent alone with Cooper has made us even closer. I truly cherished that dog. He would ride in my car with me, he was great with my kids, and many deployments before I had kids my beagles were the only company I had. Its been a couple of days and the pain seems to only be getting worse. I miss both my beagles so much, but especially cooper and now I’m facing the guilt that I did this to him. It killed him almost instantly so there was no chance of saving him. I’m so heart broken that my kids experienced that and my husband had to clean up the accident I caused. This was his best friend too. I’m not sure how I’ll ever get over this.

November 4, 2013 at 10:36 am
(92) AllMyFault says:

I lost my Sheltie of 18 years on Saturday. Like I have done 3-6+ times a day for the last 18 months (I recently moved to this new house), I let him out unattended, even though I live about 30 feet from a highway. He was old, moved slow, and had never gone down the driveway (toward the highway). He hardly ever went 10 feet from the door. I left him unattended because I wanted him to be outside for as long as he liked, not just a few minutes. He would scratch at the door when he wanted back in. However, a couple days ago, my boyfriend told me he had let out my dog and later found him near the mailboxes, RIGHT next to the highway. We agreed we would watch him from that point forward. But I was so stupid. On Saturday, I let him out as usual. I intended to keep an eye on him from inside…but I forgot about him. I forgot about my precious dog.

My dog got hit three houses down, further than he had ever wandered. He must have walked along the grass lawn first, then wandered into traffic. I hate myself for what I did to him. I am so sorry and so ashamed. In his prime, he would have never gone into the road, but he had grown confused in old age, and I knew it. He had been going downhill over the last year, and I had been mentally trying to prepare for putting him down, but I never imagined it would be like this. I took him to the vet on Saturday immediately after he was hit, and they advised euthanasia, which I agreed to. It was definitely the right thing to do. But letting him wander alone outside… How can I live with myself, knowing what I did to this sweet old dog who I loved SO much? I always considered myself a great owner to this dog, and he helped me through so many rough points in my life. He deserved so much better than this. Now life is going on as usual all around me, and I just can’t take it. I did something so horrible, and there will never be anything I can do to make amends.

November 7, 2013 at 8:33 am
(93) Anusha says:

Today must have been the worst day of my life,I ran over our beloved Trixsie a jack russel who showed me and my family side of life we have never experienced since she came into our 2 and a half years ago .Everything we hope to see in a person she had -love in abundance,care ,loyalty ,sincerity ,a endless supply of fun and tricks .I miss you girl I thank God for how you changed our lives and I know you are safe and in peace Love mum ,dad ,kuyuri and suvania

November 20, 2013 at 8:54 am
(94) martha says:

I ran over my dog yesterday and killed her. she was the sweetest loving dog ever. she was young and would run out to greet me as i came down my long driveway. i thought i had cleared her and slowed down enought, but she got in front of me and i ran over her. my husband watched the whole thing from our porch. it was very traumatizing. when i looked in the rear view mirroe she looked back like what happened? she died on the way to the vet.
I have been traumatized over it feeling sick, can’t eat, and i have never felt this way before. i loved her so much and she slept with us too. her name is Goldie and she looked like part golden retriever and part greyhound. i have never loved any dog like her and the loss feels unending.

November 20, 2013 at 9:07 am
(95) martha says:

as i read everyone’s posts i can see how much everyone loved their pets. its so hard to lose them when they are such a big part of our lives. my heart goes out to each of you as I grieve the loss of my Goldie, who I ran over and killed yesterday, (in my own driveway).
it feels like i will never be the same. and i never felt this way before, not sure if its just the loss of if its the guilt of the what if’s and i am still sick about it.

December 1, 2013 at 4:01 am
(96) Lauren says:

Oh now I know how you all feel. Today we lost our beautiful little Rebbie. He was Blue Heeler cross Kelpie cross Jack Russel. He had an unforgettable look about him….short like a jack russel with a Kelpie looking face and a stockey blue speckled body. He had an outrageous personality full of life, cheek and love. He adored fetching sticks and swimming. He would jump off anything into the water. He was a fabulous entertainer.
Sadly we lost him today on our way to a nice part of the river down the road from where we live. We tied him up in the back of the ute and as we were travelling along he fell off the side. His collar broke as he fell and he went straight under our back tyre. It was deverstating! We will never forget his amazing character. He was the best! It was very difficult having to scrape him up off the road and see the damage we had done to him. He sadly passed away before we could make the vet.
We will never forget our Rebbie, he will be deeply missed by the whole family!
Best wishes to all of you who have experienced similar circumstances xxxxx

December 1, 2013 at 4:08 pm
(97) Ashley M. says:

We just lost our precious Abby today. We sometimes tie her up when we let her out but she likes to run around. I had gone out to get lunch and I came speeding up the drive way. I felt something that seemed to be a log that I drove over and I looked back and it was her, convulsing and bleeding from the head. I loved Abby so much but she was ultimately my moms dog. My mom was so distraught she picked her bloody lifeless body up and screamed and fell to the ground. I can’t believe I killed our dog. The amount of hurt and guilt that I am experiencing is unbareable. My mom won’t stop crying and I feel he blame and feel that when my family members see my face or my car it will continue to bring up bad memories. Why did this happen to me? What did I ever do to deserve this? I know she must have been excited to see me, she’s never in the driveway or run out in front of the car. I didn’t see her, it just happened so fast and I can’t get the image out of my head. We can’t take her anywhere because it’s Sunday, so she’s laying wrapped up in the foyer. What am I going to do? How am I ever going to forgive myself? How is my mom going to forgive me?

December 4, 2013 at 4:24 pm
(98) PapaTerrier says:

Grieving together with other folks who loved their animals as family and not just a “pet” helps take the edge off the pain and guilt. My wife always wanted a Yorkshire Terrier. After my old dog Buddy passed away from cancer I got her one. A little tiny black, tan, and brown ball of fluff named Tinkerbell. She was the smartest little dog I had ever seen. She learned her name w/i two days of coming home with us, she was just about house broken w/i two weeks. I fell in love with this little dog heart and soul….she made me laugh and feel young again with all her energy. The main drawback of it all was how small she was. I was absolutely paranoid that something might happen to her. On the Monday before thanks giving my worst nightmare came to light. I was taking her outside to go potty and we have two steps to the porch. She jumped down onto the first step just as I was about to step down so I instead corrected skipped it in order to avoid stepping on her…..at the very moment I committed to going down she jumped right under my foot and I came down on her with my full weight. She gave a small yelp and I heard her little ribs crack….it was the worst thing I could have ever imagined. The only mercy was that she did not live long after to suffer much pain. My wife when I told her tried to console me and let me know that she did not blame me and it was just a bad accident. My heart broke into a million pieces and the weight of guilt has nearly crushed me. I wake every night reliving that moment and I can’t seem to stop. How do I forgive myself?? I was that little dogs guardian…I was responsible for her life and happiness and I have failed epically.

December 7, 2013 at 9:48 am
(99) atsbits says:

Ran over my mum’s dog last night. I feel terrible. It was just before a party and was leaving to get ice for the drinks. I had been waiting outside while the gate closed and was about to pull away. I knew he was about but after a visual check and revving the engine a bit to make some noise, I didn’t see him anywhere. As I pulled away, felt a small bump. As I looked back to see what it was in the mirror, he was twitching on the street. Was dead before I got him back into the house. Could feel his crushed bones as I carried him in.

He usually runs around free and has been doing so for 15yrs. He was a great companion to my mum and grandad and us before we moved out. You’ll be missed Boerie.

December 22, 2013 at 11:09 pm
(100) Roz says:

Hi I am sorry for all you loss, I am really on here searching for some comfort as only tonight out 20 week old British bull dog Teddy had pulled on her collar and chocked herself whilst going for walkies, she was very quickly unable to breath so at 1 am we took her to the vets and they gave her a steriod injection and told us to watch her overnight , she died in the car a horrible death with blood leaking out everywhere ! I’m in total shock and I’m so so so sad that my little teddy near has died because I didn’t buy her a harness !!

December 23, 2013 at 2:44 am
(101) Sad:-( says:

Thank you all for sharing your stories.
I have a tragic story to tell! 2 weeks ago we brought home the smallest, cutest black and brown chihuahua girl you have ever seen, she was 8 weeks old. We went to Petsmart and bought her all of the best stuff, took her to the vet for all of her care and loved her! I had a baby gate set up in the door way of our downstairs bathroom to keep her contained while we were busy or not home. This past Saturday, I was woke up late because I was feeling poorly, my husband was outside getting ready to clean out the gutters and my 4 year old was watching cartoons in the livingroom (within site of my husband). I asked my husband to let the dog do it’s business and handed her to him, I went upstairs to brush my teeth… not 4 mins later, my husband comes up stairs and says that our daughter killed the puppy! I went running down stairs and found our puppy lying with its head swollen, eyes slightly bulging and not breathing. Our daughter was trying to put the puppy in the bathroon over the baby gate and the baby gate gave way and she and the gate fell on top of the puppy. I knew right away that she was dying, and within 10 minutes, the puppy was gone! I feel so guilty and sad. My daughter sobbed for over an hour, it was a horrible accident! It was so traumatic watching our cute little girl die!

January 30, 2014 at 10:24 pm
(102) Ashlie says:

I am reading all of your comments and can not help but cry. I feel all of your pain. I ran over our dog Bailey on Tuesday. We usually keep her in our big back yard but since it was cold I decided to leave the side garage door open so she would stay warm while we went to work. When I came home after work I opened the large garage door to pull my car in. Bailey came running out, like always she was happy to see me. I stopped my vehicle when I saw her so I would not hit her, but just when I thought she moved it was to late. She passed immediately. I called my husband hysterical. I could not even look at her and felt so awful for killing her. She was like my child. We have a smal daughter and I did not know how I was going to tell her. Bailey and her were so close. The first thing my daughter did everyday was greet and kiss her. I have so much pain and guilt for what I did. I keep playing it back and asking myself what if??? My husband and coworkers have been very supportive. They tell me that accidents happen and we do not always have an answer to why. I can ask what if and blame myself but it will not bring Bailey back. It is hard but each day gets a little easier. Reading all of your comments helps reassures me that I am not the only person who has to go through this. I pray for all of you and I know that all our loved pets are in a peaceful place.

February 9, 2014 at 8:55 pm
(103) Rosie's mom says:

As I read all of your stories my heart is breaking for each and everyone of you. To loose a pet is so very sad but to kill your most precious companion is unbearable!!! We have had life’s greatest pleasure to be mamma & papa to the most loving, carefree, beautiful Maltese for the past 14 years. Our baby girl Rosie was truly our homes blessing. She made us such better people with the unconditional love and joy she brought to us each and every day. Yesterday morning I so stupidly, mindlessly, unforgivingly ran over her in our driveway. When I got into my car she was on our porch and within a second I felt the haunting “bumb” under my tire. As I watched my husband screaming in front of me I prayed my nightmare was not really happening, but it was! I immediately picked up her broken body and held her as tight as I could as she took her last breath. My heart broke! Our life has a huge hole which will never be filled. Every turn reminds us of our sweet Rosie and her happy, wonderful life which was taken away too soon. Although my husband is kind in telling me accidents happen, the guilt of killing my baby girl and taking the life of my husband’s most treasured gift is unbearable. Yes she is quietly resting in a “better” place but I (we) selfishly want her here!!! I love you my beautiful Rosie with all my heart! xoxoxoxo

February 22, 2014 at 4:07 pm
(104) lori says:

I was watching my daughters dog as we do quite often and let him and my daughter who lives with us dog out. i do every morning and he comes right back for breakfast. this time he didnt , he chase a rabbit and got hit,. he was like a son to my daughter and her whole world. she trusted me to watch him and I failed her and him. Now he is gone. she comes home from her cruise tommorow and I have to face her and I just want to run .I dont know how I will be able to see the pain I have caused her.i wish I could turn back the clock.How could I let her down.

February 25, 2014 at 12:27 pm
(105) Pratima Bhuyan says:

My puppy died today… I don’t know why he died. He was not eating anything from yesterdays night n left us alone today evening. We tried our best to save him it was useless. I am very sad

March 6, 2014 at 1:51 pm
(106) Lilly's best friend says:

I’m sorry to read all the sadness and anguish you all suffer. It’s devastating when they go no matter how or when. It breaks our hearts. My Lilly was about to turn 10. I adopted her at age 4 on Christmas. I’d trot all over ten, prancing proudly because she’s so beautiful: little petite tri colored cavalier King Charles girlie! Tri-colored pets are supposedly good luck and she brought me loads of good fortune. We went to yoga Home Depot manicures and pedicures and she spent every minute possible in my lap. Except when she slept. She wanted to keep my head warm. Sometimes I would let her. She loved to sing. My little son and I sang and she joined us howling thinking she really sounded human or maybe she knew she sounded like a dog. I don’t know but she put herself into it with wholehearted spirit. Her eye had a white around it that many people said made her look crazy or angry or mad. I never thought much because it just was her face: a unique and beautiful face of love. We spent 6 nice years in each other’s company. I’m grateful for that. Her love taught me. It gave me joy. It opened my own heart and laughter kindness generosity and grace. Good bye dear friend Lilly. I’ll always keep your love in my life. Blessings on you💋

March 9, 2014 at 12:58 am
(107) sayra says:

Hi well, I was being followed by a dog and I didn’t pick her up because I was looking for my two dogs,so I walked her back to her house knocking first but the door wasn’t opened so I left and I guess she followed me and got hit by a car and died instantly,I guess I was in shock because I felt like crying but I couldnt I could only screen..a c
ouple hours later I had found my dogs I was in my living room and just broke down and haven’t been able to stop crying.
I keep thinking if I had just brought her home and taken her back. And the jerk who ran her over was going way over the speed limit and could have easily avoided hitting her.

March 14, 2014 at 6:12 am
(108) Sophia says:

Today I ran over my Cocker Spaniel. Her name was Sparky Boom Boom. We all loved her so much. My mom had recued her from a busy road when she was just 7 weeks old. She was all alone and then suddenly she had a family and all the love that she could recieve from My Mom, Sister,brother and I. She was our baby.she was only 5-6 months old.

This morning when I was backing out with my Jeep, to go to work, I registered where she was as I was reversing the car. Then as I turned to accelerate, she was far from the car she was safe, but somehow she got infrom of my rear tyre and I ran over her.I heard a little cry from her and when I looked inj my rear veiw mirror she was twitching for dear life. There was so much blood, I cried out for My Mom and Brother to come and help me.

I feel so awaful- I was suppose to keep her safe instead I killed. I can’t stop crying.

March 15, 2014 at 9:29 pm
(109) Giselle says:

I feel so sorry for you. My beloved ruby (cavalier spaniel) was killed by a car just hours ago and I cannot stop crying too. I feel it was my fault as it went too close to a busy road, there was a person I wanted to talk to. My dog and 4 year old son followed me but my dog ran straight into the road in front of a car. If I hadn’t gone so close to the road she would have been curled up asleep now with us.

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